Size Matters?

Size matters. Clothing size that is.

The little number on the back of your dress, blouse and trousers, has the power to rule your life and crumple your self-confidence into nothing. And you’re supposed to care about that number, that no one else sees. Or rather, that’s what the fashion industry want, or that’s what you think they want.

In reality no one really cares what size you are, whether you’re big or small, except you. The only person that really cares is you. No one else.

I can understand that some would become a little upset when they try a dress on in their usual size and it doesn’t fit, but just because you have to go up a size or two, doesn’t mean you are that size. We all know that sizes differ in every clothing store and some even have their own sizing systems.

Apparently one woman, didn’t get that same memo and when she could only fit her size 12 body into a size 20 dress from H&M, she was outraged. Now, I’ll admit that 12 to 20 is a big leap and is a little unusual. But, knowing that H&M is a European country and knowing European sizes are very different to the UK, you should expect some variation in “sizes”. In response to this unusual sizing, I would expect a wee rant on Facebook saying “Can you believe this? Madness! Oh well, still look good!” But the young woman in question went to a level that I like to call Ultimate Snowflake Mode!

I’ll link to the article below, but while bashing H&M for their horrendous labelling, she went on to say:

“I can only imagine the psychological impact a size 20 could have on a young impressionable girl”

Yes, young girls struggle with body image more than adults, they are under a lot of pressure and can be easily upset. But I don’t think any girl with an ounce of common sense would allow a wrong label to cause psychological damage.

A label is just that. A label. It is not a certificate. It is a piece of fabric with a number printed on it. And it doesn’t mean anything if you value yourself instead of your image.

To end her rant, she says:

“Do not blame manufacturers for your issues. It is YOUR company who label these items and it is YOUR company who clearly has issues with everyday women wearing your clothes. It is disgusting behaviour on your part. You should be ashamed of yourselves.”

Personally, I’ve never had a problem with H&M sizing and a part of me wonders if the experience this woman went through is a rarity. Unless she tried on every size 12 item in the store, I cannot believe that this is a problem with their clothing. Dress styles vary a lot in size and it could be possible that that specific line of clothing was mislabelled meaning it was an accident.

Making a fuss about sizes like this woman, strengthens the misconception that size matters. Instead of ranting and raving, maybe she should have just given others a heads up about that pesky dress and moved on.

What I’m trying to say is, if you know that you are a size 12, or whatever, and in one shop, you can only fit into a size 20 (or whatever), it clearly means that that size 20 is not a size 20 and you should definitely not worry about that number. Because it simply doesn’t matter.

Whatever your actual size, you are beautiful and you should be proud of yourself for being such a badass and not allowing numbers to rule your life.

DM article: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4249924/Size-12-woman-blasts-H-M-sizing.html

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Love TRUMPs Hate

Over the last few days’ tensions have been running high throughout the World. We have all been watching Washington D.C with bated breath for a long time now (it feels like decades, I mean really, am I the only one that got sick of all the Presidential race coverage?). But on the 20th, it happened…Donald Trump became President of the United States and the entire World seemed to split into two. The next four years (come on, stop saying eight, don’t assume…we all know what that does) are going to be extremely interesting for all of us. Yes, America, not just you guys.

Donald Trump will affect us all and what that affect will be, no one really knows yet. I’m no expert in politics, in fact, I hate the subject, however I have seen how this man has already had an impact on people’s lives. Protests, riots, violence, a lot even before he was elected! It amazed and sickened me how one man can turn so many people against each other.

I’m a firm believer that everyone has a right to their own opinion and that everyone’s opinion should be respected, even if you disagree with it. I often say, “you’re an allowed an opinion, just don’t be a little s**thead about it.” And people usually follow that rule, because people are decent (most of the time). But now, it seems that if you support Trump, you’re the spawn of Satan himself.

I will say that I’m not a supporter of Trump, but then I’m not a supporter of Clinton either. I thought that the choices America had were just bloody awful and you’d probably do better with a dead guy, or a dog…but hey, you had to pick someone, right?

And because you had to pick someone (because if you didn’t vote and could…well, you know), you really can’t be angry if someone voted differently, because their opinions are different to yours and that is okay. There are a lot of us that do not like Trump, but we must accept that he is the President and the only thing we can do is wait and see what happens. We can be sceptical, but we shouldn’t be taking our anger out on each other and instead be making positives out of the negatives.

We must remember to love and respect each other, despite our opinions. If you think he is disrespectful and heartless, then do not act in the same way. Arguing, fighting and hating each other will not make this situation any easier. Voice your opinion in respectful ways and allow others to voice there’s without turning into a s**thead. Your voice will get further when you make valid points and not argue in childish ways.

We should all show Trump…that love and respect trumps hate! By loving and respecting each other. (After all, being a good and kind person is a lot easier and much more rewarding than being a s**thead.)

via Daily Prompt: Devastation

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Quick Thought – The OA

Netflix has been doing an amazing job at smashing out Original series lately, all of them seem to be huge successes. But there’s so many, it’s hard to know what to watch! So, I thought I’d share a short post on my thoughts of one of their newer series, The OA. I’m not giving a full hugely detailed review (spoiling too much personally ruins a show for me), and I don’t have any theories about what certain things mean (I want to be surprised when season 2 comes out).

It took me a while to pick one of the many Original series that are available, but after hearing so many mixed feelings about it, I finally decided to give The OA a go. Some said it’s a lot like Stranger Things, others have said it’s just a bit too weird. I like weird, so I thought I’d give it a go.

I’ll start by saying that the cast is amazing. Just flat out brilliant and captivating. If you love watching amazing acting, then just go for this because these actors won’t let you down.

As I mentioned, I’m not going to reveal too much about the plot, because it’s so eccentric, I don’t think I’ll be able to do it any justice what-so-ever. All you need to know, is that it’s about a blind woman who went missing and she returns to her family 7 years later, with her vision fully intact. She tells her story of how she got her sight back and what she went through during the 7 years and it’s incredible, both in good and bad ways.

The biggest gripe I have, is the reveal of the title. OA. I don’t think I quite understood it, and because of that it lets everything down a bit. It’s almost as if the creators had this amazing idea for a series and then ran out of steam when thinking of the title and therefore didn’t put any effort into it. It was obvious the reveal was important, but it just didn’t work. And from what I’ve heard, I’m not the only one that things it was a bit silly. (if you have watched this series, I’d love to hear your thoughts on the reveal.) I’m sure there are a few others problems with the series, but that, for me, was the biggest one.

That aside, The OA is a pretty incredible series about life, death, ‘the other side’ and love. If you like weird, I highly recommend you watch this. Once you’re 3-4 episodes in, you will likely be hooked. I cried toward the end of the last episode (there are only 8, so it’s not a long series) and I think the ending was fairly satisfying.

Overall, I give The OA 4 out of 5. The title and the reveal let it down in my opinion. I’m sure there could have been much better options. You definitely need to pay attention while watching and it’s not a happy-jolly show, it’s some serious, confusing, crazy shit and I hope there’s a second season.

 

My Writing Journal

Every writer has a journal or note book that they use to write their ideas and their schedules in. I know because I watched a lot of YouTube videos in November, of people showing off their NaNoWriMo journals and I was amazed at how much work they had put into them. Some people must have spent days, if not weeks putting together their journal that would last them one, maybe two months. And I thought it was all a bit overkill. But everyone does things differently, so, here’s my journal!

It’s one book, with beautiful thick paper, a magnetic closure and a pocket in the back for loose papers. Notes for any and all ideas go into this book. Everything fiction is kept together, I used to have one notebook for every idea/project, but it really didn’t work out. All the ideas, notes, chapter plans, writing and editing schedules go into this book. It does mean that notes are split up, but to make things easier, everything is highlighted and book marked different colours. So, for example, all the pink bookmarks are for Littlewolf. I can find the notes on Littlewolf easily and once I’ve finished, the marks will be removed and new ones will be used for a new project! It may all appear a bit messy, but it definitely works for me. I love having everything in one place.

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Blog Journal

So, that’s my fiction journal, but I also started to use an old (unused) notebook I recently found, for blogs! I write the dates that blogs are supposed to go out and what the topic is. It’s very messy inside, but it helps to keep me on track. There’s a section for personal blogs, a section for book blogs and the back section is for brain storming ideas! I decorated it with some Tetris stickers I received in a Loot Crate years ago, to liven it up and I really like it.

I think I can keep track of two books, plus a separate diary! They all have their own pens, and are kept together on the desk, so I can’t possibly lose them…right?

I love to see what other people use for their journals/planners/whatever, it’s amazing how we all prefer different types of books to keep our thoughts in. I had thought of getting a traveller’s journal, but I just love beautiful notebooks like the one I currently have.

Paperchase is my heaven. Notebooks are a slight addiction. And schedules are a life saver.

 

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2016 is Dead – My Goals for 2017

2016 is over. Thank God! For the last few years I’ve thought, “Am I the only one that’s had a terrible year?” I think I can safely say, that I am definitely NOT the only one. 2016 was a complete and utter shit storm for a lot of us and I pray that 2017 does not turn into 2016 Mark II.

In an attempt to make 2017 a better year for me, I’ve made a small list of what I’m going to try and do before Sunday 31st December 2017.

First, I want to completely finish Littlewolf and be happy with what I’ve created. I already have people telling me they love it, but I need to make it better and I’ve already started work on that. I’ve roughly estimated that I’ll finish the second draft and the editing by the end of March 2017. Every hour I spend on Littlewolf is not going to be wasted and I intend on that showing in my work. This is my biggest goal for this year and I am determined for it to happen. I love Littlewolf and the world I’ve created and I want to share it with everyone.

Second, I want to get my health under control. At the moment, my B12 and Vitamin D deficiencies are slowing me down and making me sick, a lot. With depression, anxiety and back problems thrown on top, most of my days are a struggle. Some days are better than others, but I look forward to the day where I can wash without aids and make food without help. I used to be independent and I want to be that again.

Third, I want to do what I love. This is more of an addition to my first goal, as what I love, is writing. But I want to write more after Littlewolf, I have so many ideas that I want to turn into stories. I want to be able to write for a living and share my stories with the world. I have never loved any job that I’ve had, apart from this one.

Fourth, I think everyone has this goal, but I thought I’d include it anyway. Spend more time with those I love. My family and friends, where ever they are in the World. I want to spend more time with them and make memories. This goal isn’t just a 2017 goal, it’s a goal for life.

For the moment, I think that’s it, or at least they’re the most important to me. I’m not saying things like “New year, new me,” That never works out for anybody and I don’t need to change who I am to make these goals a reality, I just need to change how I do some things. I never make goals to eat healthier, because that never works out either. I just can’t stand salad.

But I think having goals for the year, will help make the year what you want it to be. So, do you have any goals? Or did you have goals in 2016 that you fulfilled?

I hope everyone reading this has a fantastic 2017, for whatever reason!

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https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/year/

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Littlewolf & The Update Part II

I’ve had a little unplanned break, so here’s a wee update:

The first draft of Littlewolf was completed a few weeks ago and I immediately began the editing process. But I realised that there was still a lot more that I could add to the story. So I began a sort of ‘re-write’, from beginning to end, adding and editing as I go. But as I started, I began to feel that I was completely burnt out. And I had to stop for what has turned into two weeks!

My energy levels are usually topsy-turvy and I can never predict how I’m going to feeling day to day. But the last few weeks have been terrible and I just haven’t been able to get any work done at all. It’s all very frustrating.

I’ll probably take the remainder of this week off and begin afresh on Monday! It has put my plans a little behind schedule, but I have to try and accept it. I’ve been so organised lately, that I’m just constantly frustrated at myself for being tired. Sounds crazy really.

But the second draft of Littlewolf is underway! And I’m very excited about the additions I have in mind. A lot of TLC is going into this story and I’m going to take my time with the second draft. I’m just happy to finally have the first draft complete, after 2 years of putting it off.

So I apologise for the lack of update, but everything will be back to normal next week! I have allowed myself two weeks of R&R and procrastination, so now it’s time for the productivity to continue!

See you all in the New Year, I hope you have a merry one. x

 

 

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Just Call Me Dory

Health issues are a problem we all face at some point in our lives, and we develop conditions and recover over time. We get help where we can, but ultimately, we change our habits to please our new lifestyles.

Those of us with any ounce of common sense knows that anything can strike anyone at any age. Ten year olds can have heart attacks, arthritis can strike at fourteen, or if you’re like me, you can have a terrible memory before you turn twenty-five.

My short-term memory has become increasingly more worrying over the last year and some days are worse than others.

But what really grinds my gears, is the reaction I get from people when they ask how I am and I tell them that it’s a bad memory day. And then, instead of saying “That’s okay”, they scoff and give me a look as if to say, “Memory problems, yeah right!”

This happened to me very recently by someone I have known for a few years. They even turned their back on me when I continued speaking. That really pissed me off.

Now, seeing as a lot of people are yet to see me at my worst, allow me to give you a little insight, in the hopes it helps you to understand what I mean by “Memory problems”.

On a bad day, I cannot hold a conversation. Why? Because I forget sentences while I’m saying them. I forget what I’ve said as soon as I’ve said it and my train of thought is none existent. Whoever I’m speaking to needs to fill in the blanks for me, or the conversation just dies. And I forget what the conversation was about. I need to write down what people say to me, or I’ll forget what they’ve told me almost as soon as they’ve finished.

I don’t just forget if I’ve fed myself, but I also question if I fed the dog! I have to set strict alarms for any medication I am on, or I’ll forget to take it…and then I’ll forget that I have taken it.

I could go on, but I think you get the idea. And so, when I say, “My memory is bad today,” I really do mean it. There’s no, “Yeah right” about it. And so, I kindly ask, that if I ever do say this to you, that you don’t respond like you’ve got a giant stick up your arse. Because I already feel bad enough, without you making it worse.

I’m not ‘having a go’ at any of you reading, this is a dig/rant at a particular person, but unfortunately, they’ll never see it. And I am sick of people reacting this way, which is why I have written this.

I suppose the moral of the story is don’t judge what you don’t know.

Rant over. Regular programming will now resume. Thank you for reading and understanding, I appreciate it.

 

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