Size Matters?

Size matters. Clothing size that is.

The little number on the back of your dress, blouse and trousers, has the power to rule your life and crumple your self-confidence into nothing. And you’re supposed to care about that number, that no one else sees. Or rather, that’s what the fashion industry want, or that’s what you think they want.

In reality no one really cares what size you are, whether you’re big or small, except you. The only person that really cares is you. No one else.

I can understand that some would become a little upset when they try a dress on in their usual size and it doesn’t fit, but just because you have to go up a size or two, doesn’t mean you are that size. We all know that sizes differ in every clothing store and some even have their own sizing systems.

Apparently one woman, didn’t get that same memo and when she could only fit her size 12 body into a size 20 dress from H&M, she was outraged. Now, I’ll admit that 12 to 20 is a big leap and is a little unusual. But, knowing that H&M is a European country and knowing European sizes are very different to the UK, you should expect some variation in “sizes”. In response to this unusual sizing, I would expect a wee rant on Facebook saying “Can you believe this? Madness! Oh well, still look good!” But the young woman in question went to a level that I like to call Ultimate Snowflake Mode!

I’ll link to the article below, but while bashing H&M for their horrendous labelling, she went on to say:

“I can only imagine the psychological impact a size 20 could have on a young impressionable girl”

Yes, young girls struggle with body image more than adults, they are under a lot of pressure and can be easily upset. But I don’t think any girl with an ounce of common sense would allow a wrong label to cause psychological damage.

A label is just that. A label. It is not a certificate. It is a piece of fabric with a number printed on it. And it doesn’t mean anything if you value yourself instead of your image.

To end her rant, she says:

“Do not blame manufacturers for your issues. It is YOUR company who label these items and it is YOUR company who clearly has issues with everyday women wearing your clothes. It is disgusting behaviour on your part. You should be ashamed of yourselves.”

Personally, I’ve never had a problem with H&M sizing and a part of me wonders if the experience this woman went through is a rarity. Unless she tried on every size 12 item in the store, I cannot believe that this is a problem with their clothing. Dress styles vary a lot in size and it could be possible that that specific line of clothing was mislabelled meaning it was an accident.

Making a fuss about sizes like this woman, strengthens the misconception that size matters. Instead of ranting and raving, maybe she should have just given others a heads up about that pesky dress and moved on.

What I’m trying to say is, if you know that you are a size 12, or whatever, and in one shop, you can only fit into a size 20 (or whatever), it clearly means that that size 20 is not a size 20 and you should definitely not worry about that number. Because it simply doesn’t matter.

Whatever your actual size, you are beautiful and you should be proud of yourself for being such a badass and not allowing numbers to rule your life.

DM article: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4249924/Size-12-woman-blasts-H-M-sizing.html

2016 is Dead – My Goals for 2017

2016 is over. Thank God! For the last few years I’ve thought, “Am I the only one that’s had a terrible year?” I think I can safely say, that I am definitely NOT the only one. 2016 was a complete and utter shit storm for a lot of us and I pray that 2017 does not turn into 2016 Mark II.

In an attempt to make 2017 a better year for me, I’ve made a small list of what I’m going to try and do before Sunday 31st December 2017.

First, I want to completely finish Littlewolf and be happy with what I’ve created. I already have people telling me they love it, but I need to make it better and I’ve already started work on that. I’ve roughly estimated that I’ll finish the second draft and the editing by the end of March 2017. Every hour I spend on Littlewolf is not going to be wasted and I intend on that showing in my work. This is my biggest goal for this year and I am determined for it to happen. I love Littlewolf and the world I’ve created and I want to share it with everyone.

Second, I want to get my health under control. At the moment, my B12 and Vitamin D deficiencies are slowing me down and making me sick, a lot. With depression, anxiety and back problems thrown on top, most of my days are a struggle. Some days are better than others, but I look forward to the day where I can wash without aids and make food without help. I used to be independent and I want to be that again.

Third, I want to do what I love. This is more of an addition to my first goal, as what I love, is writing. But I want to write more after Littlewolf, I have so many ideas that I want to turn into stories. I want to be able to write for a living and share my stories with the world. I have never loved any job that I’ve had, apart from this one.

Fourth, I think everyone has this goal, but I thought I’d include it anyway. Spend more time with those I love. My family and friends, where ever they are in the World. I want to spend more time with them and make memories. This goal isn’t just a 2017 goal, it’s a goal for life.

For the moment, I think that’s it, or at least they’re the most important to me. I’m not saying things like “New year, new me,” That never works out for anybody and I don’t need to change who I am to make these goals a reality, I just need to change how I do some things. I never make goals to eat healthier, because that never works out either. I just can’t stand salad.

But I think having goals for the year, will help make the year what you want it to be. So, do you have any goals? Or did you have goals in 2016 that you fulfilled?

I hope everyone reading this has a fantastic 2017, for whatever reason!

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My Three Golden Tricks

Getting into a steady writing flow is hard, especially when you’re faced with a blank document. I often find that I’m sitting in front of my computer for up to an hour before I finally begin to type the words that are locked up inside. While an hour is a long time to be sitting, stewing over what you’re trying to say, it is sometimes necessary.

Finding inspiration can be just as difficult as writing the words, but I have been able to find a couple of tricks to help the words flow effortlessly. While these tricks work for me, I am interested to hear of what other writers do to get their fingers dancing on the keyboard.

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The Idea Of Beauty

What makes someone beautiful?

Is it the way they look, the way they carry themselves? Or is it confidence?

The media would have us believe that beauty is one body shape, fake breasts and faces so perfect, you’d think they were carved from the smoothest stone. But is that beauty? It’s certainly not natural beauty.

Natural beauty is any size, any shape. I’m sure, as you’re reading this right now, there is something you dislike about yourself. There are a lot of things I dislike about myself and because of my past torment with bullies and what media portray as “Beautiful”, I am self conscious and I believe that I have to wear makeup to feel even the tiniest bit pretty. I’m sure we’ve all been there. Continue reading